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H. asked me:
How can i help my self finding a partner for life?
My answer:
 When you ask a child what does he want to be when he grows up, he either says “I don't know?!”
or something heroic such as a fireman, police man or a ballerina.
Why do they answer like that?
Because it is too hard for them to formulate the future.
So they either don't or they use the opportunity to talk about their dreams.
Meaning I'll be then what I want to be now.
However, if you ask a child what toy would you like to have, they might get confused in the beginning,
but they will come up with a very clear answer and immediately demand to have it!
When we asked them the question, their desire for their choice of a toy arose, formulated, clarified and
now they demand a result. This is a direct path of action, there is no question about it!
This is the secret magic of a demanding child!
It is good to dream about your man, however when you think about a partner for life, it is too wide.
Life is a long time, it is something which you can not formulate or contain in you and
that is why it can not be answered for you.
In other words, you “aim” to high and for too long.
We always operate only in the degree that we are in. We can not see the bigger picture and we do not need to as well.
So, how to concentrate like a child on what you want now?
That depends on the internal mechanisms of each person and his/ her difficulties to
raise a clean internal demand.
Some people will need to write a “shopping list” of what they want now, however for others
being so precise can be detrimental.
There is never a correct answer but what is suitable to each individual.
For now, demand like a child (just don't tell your mum I said so...)!
All the best
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